One of the most exciting adventures of your life will be of having a baby. This single act, more that any other, will change your lifestyle. The awareness of your baby and his sensations will begin to develop the mother-child bond and your communication with him, which the act of labour and giving birth will help to cement. Parenthood is the most important and the most challenging job that you will ever do, and it can be the most rewarding.

When you and your partner become new parents, you will share many positive feelings- feelings of personal gratification, challenge, and achievement; a deepened love; and a renewed appreciation of each other. You will enjoy discovering new dimensions in each other as parents becoming closer. 

The negative feelings that accompany new parenthood may come as a surprise to you, however, as may the feelings of guilt that often follows. When you have done simply everything to soothe a fussy baby and he is still crying, you may find yourself getting upset or even hostile toward this baby who is so " ungrateful" for all that you have done for him. In such cases, you are not alone…

Parents are human and have feelings of anger and guilt from time to time, whether they admit it or not. The feelings are not the problem, however. Rather, the concern is over how you handle the feelings and cope with the situation at hand. Often, just talking with other new mothers who are experiencing the same feelings and difficulties will help you put the situation in perspective and arrive at a creative solution.

Sometimes, the baby is not the reason that these emotions surface in a mother. Instead, loss of freedom, lack of intellectual stimulation, or lowered self-confidence is the cause. If you feel upset in any way after your baby is born, try to find the reason you feel as you do. You will then be able to work toward a solution. Be sure to share your feelings with your mate. 

Problems seem less important when they are shared and solved together. Warmth and affection mean a lot to new parents, especially during the early adjustment period. A cuddle and hug may mean more to you than making love for a while. 

The main thing that you and your husband should try to do is to keep in touch with each other's feelings. The concerns that you will have as new parents will be rather typical of what you will find throughout your life as a couple. If you can talk about your feelings and needs now, you will find that your understanding of each other will enhance your sexual problems. Talk about your feelings, keep your sense of humor, and look together for solutions. After all, you will be friends and lovers long after your child has grown up and left home.